I'm sorry that you went through those things with your sister. I hated being an only child but was always grateful I did not have a sister close in age. Hannah did not live with us for more than a few months. I think after the episode where I screamed about Hannah and my father beat me, my parents had a talk and it was agreed that it would be better for her to leave (I don't remember where she went.) But even after that my mother felt sorry for her and took her on outings that she didn't think Hannah would get to go on otherwise (the one I remember most was to a theater in Princeton). Hannah wasn't pretty, popular, or athletic. She was tough and spunky and outspoken. I think she reminded my mother of herself growing up (except that my mother was never thin) but she grew up poor and had to fend for herself in a lot of ways. I think she was always disappointed in me because I didn't behave the way *she* would have if she had grown up with all my "advantages" (a room of my own with a desk, a house full of books, enrichment activities) and all I seemed to care about was figuring out the social scene I was in (which I did not do very well). I am blessed that at some point I just stopped being obsessed with my weight. I certainly was never obese the way a lot of kids are now. I had a BMI of 25 from the time I was 11 or so unless I kept myself on a starvation diet, which I wasn't able to do for very long. If I had had the exact same physique and had been 30 no one would have thought I was overweight, although I was stocky (looked like Kim Novak) rather than willowy or slender (like a Vogue model). The irony is that by staying the same weight between the ages of 12 and 68 I went from being conspicuously zaftig and un-childlike to being considered "petite" and "trim". So my weight didn't change; the benchmarks did. Hannah has a Facebook page and I can see that she is much heavier than I am. So she outgrew her teenage svelteness and straightened her teeth, but I heard from a mutual friend that she is still a sponger, staying at people's homes and freeloading. This mutual friend finally dropped Hannah after she let Hannah stay with her for a few months and Hannah (despite having a decent job) never bought groceries or cleaned up anything.